HI, I’M KRISTA.

That's me and my beautiful 8 year old daughter! 💕 We have four lovable cats (and that # could go up tomorrow 🙀).  I admittedly swear sometimes and am ridiculously committed to helping moms like you realize that you are not crazy, broken or unlovable.  And making sure YOU KNOW you’re loved, supported, and worthy of having a life of peace, joy and …  just plain being frickin’ happy!

I'm a certified coach (High Conflict Divorce & Wayfinder Life Coach) and consultant, dedicated to helping women just. like. you.

I’ve been doing this *thing* for 5+ years and have been obsessed with learning about all things ‘self-help’ since Junior High.  I’m having hard conversations with women around how to truly be happy & find joy in life, married or divorced.  The discussions that few are having … but everyone should.

'CAUSE LADIES, I’VE BEEN THERE TOO.

Not just in a southern "I know, hun" kind of way.  And I survived.  You will too.

I’ve done the - watch your married friends post fun-filled tropical family vacation pics on IG and FB - while you're trying to decide 'if it's bad enough' to justify filing for divorce, or while you spend your weekend worrying about your child’s safety in your ex’s care now that the divorce is over and 50/50 custody is what you ended up with.  Not fun, my friend.

At the same time, you worry that you'll never regain the awesomeness💃🏼 that attracted your partner to you way-back-then.  Because at some unknown point, things crossed an invisible line where you weren't pretty enough or good enough in their eyes anymore (gah, you started thinking the same way about yourself too)!  And while your friends tell you what an amazing + beautiful person you are …

… You wonder, “If I’m so great, then why do I feel so shitty about my life?"

Breathe, Momma.  I got you.

I GET YOU, BECAUSE I WAS YOU.

Long before becoming a divorce and life coach, I became well-versed in the no-so-great art of people-pleasing.  I was uncomfortable with myself (too short, not skinny enough) and worried people wouldn’t like me.  While married, I prioritized my ex’s wants & needs over my own, hoping he’d love me the way I wanted.  Spoiler alert … He never did.

After 18-months of massive confusion, a ton of self-work, and help from an AH-MAZING support system, finally paid off.  I surrendered and stopped doing all the weird shit I *thought* I should do, and filed for divorce.  That’s when I put everything I learned from my team of coaches, therapists, loving friends and family members, into cultivating self-confidence + prioritizing ME.  Feeling freedom & liberation, I left my 15-year architecture career and built a divorce + life coaching business from scratch.  I’ve turned my personal difficulties from the past into my SUPERPOWER for the future.

Now I’m showing women, like you, how to stabilize their lives.  How to build a strong foundation to stand on, feel empowered enough to know your worth, let go of the past, embrace the future, and do this damn thing called LIFE!

drop the mic ...

YOU DIDN'T SIGN UP FOR THIS.

Whether you're married & contemplating divorce, or through the divorce process and still stuck, you're just not having fun anymore!

And now you're frustrated 'cause you thought by now you'd be swinging in a hammock on an island in the Caribbean, but you still can’t seem to GET. IT. TOGETHER. 

But it’s not your fault.  It really isn't.  Because you haven’t been taught how to LIVE IN THIS WORLD. We’re taught to make ourselves happy by changing people or buying stuff.  But a big house, a million dollars, and wishing your partner was a blonde-hair, blue-eye Ken doll won't do it.  Nor will getting a new one of those Ken dolls, either.

Living happily is when an imperfect human with flaws and past experiences learns to LIVE IN an imperfect world exactly the way it is.  A happy life doesn’t happen by changing the world or people around to fit YOU.

But instead of admitting what's wrong and asking for help, we're taught to eat too much, buy things we don't need, and drink to be merry.  And that’s why there’s so many unhappy people in the world.

#bedifferent

YOU HAVE TO DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY

‘Cause I don’t give a shit about how many self-help books you’ve read.  I don’t care how many friends or followers you have on Facebook or Instagram.  Because if you have no idea how be happy without trying to change everything & everyone around you, then you’re gonna end up in the same unhappy place whether married or divorced.  Dating or single.

WHICH LOOKS LIKE ...

▶︎ Getting frustrated by little things & irritated by everything.

▶︎ Dreading weekends when the kids are with you (it’s too hectic), or aren’t with you (you’re too lonely).

▶︎ Searching outside of yourself for relief from your life (ie. drinking, relationships, shopping, gambling, etc.)

▶︎ Being judgmental and annoyed by others.

▶︎ Feeling stressed & overwhelmed 'cause there's always too much to do.

▶︎ Feeling like people are always pulling at you and asking too much.

▶︎ Never feeling like you have enough time for yourself.

▶︎ Studying another "Do *THIS* and you'll be happy" book, to no avail.

IF YOU’RE SAYING "HUH?"

“Then how do I find happiness, Krista?  I just need this promotion, make more money and find a good man.  Everything else (love, a big house) will fall into place, right?

NEGATIVE, GHOST-RIDER

(Yes, that's a nod to Top Gun 🛩️)

I’m not a coach that'll make you feel better when you refuse to leave an emotionally abusive partner, or hold your hand when you let your ex call the shots in his favor after you're divorced.

Why?  Because it goes deeper than that.  This isn’t just about going to yoga, drinking green tea or reading a book to find happiness.

This is about believing in yourself and gaining awareness to confidently deal with real life when it gets ‘lifey.’  This is about knowing your core values and letting them run the show instead of being distracted by shiny objects.

IT’S ABOUT KNOWING WHAT IS, OR ISN’T, RIGHT FOR YOU.

It's about knowing when to pause so you can be thoughtful in your response.  When to walk away before a disaster, but not before the miracle happens.  It's about being able to teach people how to treat you, because you know your worth.

So no, everything will not just fall into place as long as you're still carrying around the weight of a heavily-loaded emotional backpack.

Everything gets ridiculously easy when you're finally able to be vulnerable and accept love & support from others.  When you can graciously give back because it's imperative to reinforce what you've already learned.  When you’re able to trust that something bigger than you (or I) is running the show.

And that’s when you’ll be able to successfully & happily LIVE IN this world

‘CAUSE IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT LETTING GO.

Adopting these tools requires knowing what they are and continuing to practice applying them to your life.  These are learned skills; we’re not born knowing how to deal with angry people, or shift your thinking to feel better.  And sadly, we weren’t taught this in school either.

That’s why so many of us are unhappy & the divorce rate is so high!

Most people don’t know how to be happy, or how to have healthy relationships.  So, trust me, you’re not alone in not knowing this stuff.  So if you want happiness, then it’s your job to learn it ... ↓